@@JojannekevandenBosch I simply would feel something is very wrong if I don't have 6-10 thoughts all tumbling at once. I am 86 years of living this way. I don't know how to 'single-thought'. That could be a welcome thing....ONE thought at a time. I'd even be able to DO stuff.
They're not as advanced as we are. I'm not saying we should feel pity for them, but they may never be able to catch up to us, or to be as skillful as we are.
and at the end you lie in bed scrolling your phone to increase dopamine to relax for a while. and you are overwhelmed with guilt that you are not doing anything productive.
Hehe hopefully then two of the other thoughts are needng to have a shower and drink some water... Those thoughts can all be completed in the one action! 😂
Perfect description of task initiation paralysis. It is of course accompanied by at least one song on repeat, a rerun of a long ago conversation that didn't go well and memories associated with each of these thoughts with random strong emotions arriving from them .... ..
And this is why I love body doubling. Seeing someone else focus on a task, or having someone else help me with something, makes it soo much easier to focus those thoughts and actually get something done.
@@Evelaraevia you can do that by using Fiver, hire some dirt cheap indian guys to work on your job on behalf of you, while you're take your sweet time playing Dark Souls or something
@realblockheads8217 that's the thing: they don't help you. They just sit and do their own work. Now you can sit quietly and do yours. You don't have to talk or interact or listen to advice. You can take breaks together or each do your own separately. No one is over your shoulder checking on you
I agree. And yet my boyfriend STILL doesn't seem to freaking get it... Because "everyone feels overwhelmed sometimes". But he can clean the kitchen in 20 minutes. I spend 20 minutes gathering the will and energy to even get out of bed and walk INTO the kitchen. Then another 10 surveying the chaos, and trying to form a plan. Then I can't find the glass cleaner, or the dishwasher is still full, or the front of the fridge is icky, or all that at once, and I spin around in a circle and go back to bed...
Yeah! I agree. Downloading it my phone to help explain to friends and relatives. Like we can’t conceive of a person having one thought at a time, likewise, they can’t conceive of being overwhelmed by multiple thoughts simultaneously. Me? Got seven monkeys in my executive function running the show while the secretary to the CEO making the final decision of what happens when, and my monkeys are literally talking and yelling over each other with their own agendas trying to get the attention of the CEO. Great illustration chief! Love your content! Now, back to the zoo!
😅. I at 68 understand it well...but it doesn't the reality of it....along with the accompanying frustration.. all your life. I am simply tired of living on this crazy ride that seems to be like living on a state fair insanity ride...every day of your life.
I also relate so much I am 54 never diagnosed always wondered why people never got it when I tried to explain, I guess I never got it either but now I do.
My therapist explained it to me pretty well. ADHD Brain is like a tv with a 100 channels opened at once and you’re trying to pay attention to them all at once. And in the end you can’t and don’t watch the tv at all. (At least without meds)
I used to describe my thought space as having a 100 radio channels turned on at once, that was before I knew I had ADHD. Funny how it took so long to figure that out.
@@Born2023 honestly cant remember... it was like 9 months ago. But Im pretty sure she just said like meds help with the constant thinking but can have bad side effects
@@anothrbrickinthewallsounds like modern life is so comfortable that millions of people have the luxury to waste time and sit around and think about themselves all day everyday to me 🤷 and still get food and shelter at the end of the day even if it's not what you want to do necessarily
Awesome! Don't forget the simultaneous earworm loop of an ABBA song, being distracted by a fly/rain/wind/sun/shadows/the smell of over-flowing bins and expired salmon, plus any background noise that is going on, in addition to a feeling of impending doom because you're sure you've forgotten something😂
AND you need to put shoes on in order to be productive because the floor is too cold on the feet so it's the only thought occurring while walking around navigating where to begin being productive 😂
Being in a crowd is a horrific experience. I can hear all of the nearby conversations and my brain keeps trying to focus on one or the other and they drown out the conversation I'm supposed to be a part of. It's near constant noise. And yeah, at least one song on loop, inputs from all the other senses competing for attention, each trying to claim priority status. If I want to hear something I find I have to close my eyes to cut out that sensory input and remove some of the noise. Drives my wife nuts as she thinks I'm not paying attention when I am literally doing the only thing I can TO pay attention. A lot of ADHD people end up introverted and socially withdrawn because people simply don't know what to make of the behavioral things we have to do to accomplish normal tasks. And even when we explain they simply can't grasp it, so we are just looking for excuses to be lazy or uncaring. It's just easier to not be social, and mentally/emotionally quieter. It's actually physically exhausting to try and deal with just my own thoughts much less other people's.
@@3Zeppoli NO , OF COURSE OTHERS ( ADULTS ) HAVE OTHER THOUGHTS & WORRY ABOUT A FEW DIFFERENT THINGS … HOWEVER ITS NOT THE SAME & YOU WILL SADLY NEVER UNDERSTAND THAT & ARE LUCKY 💛
@@MelanieMacDonalDMELSPLAYLISTS Well that's presumptuous. You have no idea what my thought process is or why. I'm not speaking about a couple thoughts either. There are many reasons for this and not all of them are a syndrome, a disorder, or a disease. High intelligence for example. Personality type as well, such as those with high openness to experience and low consciousness. Then there are neurodivergent individuals that are stimulation seekers rather than avoiders. Also highly creative individuals can present with multiple random thoughts on a rather continuous basis. Of course there are those with bipolar especially during their manic phase. It's just irresponsible to pigeon hole everyone that experiences what this video describes and clump them all together into ADHD. And most annoying are those that cling to ADHD as a comfy security blanket or an identity. "I'm ADHD" rather than I have ADHD. Or "My ADHD" like it's a cherished possession or a fond friend. It's literally something to be managed not a stamp of identity or uniqueness. In conclusion, please don't tell me I'm lucky when you don't even know me. This isn't personal, it's a criticism on the video and too many generalizations. I rather enjoy my fast paced thought process and my ability to connect random ideas and patterns quickly, I wouldn't say someone who lacks that as you assumed I do is lucky. I also wouldn't say someone who has that ability/trait should be labeled with a disorder.
@@3Zeppoli I HAVENT GOT TIME TO READ YOUR COMMENT IN FULL UNTIL I GET UP AS ITS ALMOST 3 AM & I GUESS I SHOULD HAVE SAID EXCUSE MY CAPS ( NOT SHOUTING BTW ) I GUESS YOU ASSUMED I WAS WHICH IS WHY YOU ARE REACTING TO ME THE WAY YOU ARE & I DO NOT WANT TO BE GETTING INTO ARGUMENTS SO CAN YOU STOP TALKING TO ME LIKE YOU ARE OVER AN OBVIOUS MISUNDERSTANDING & WHEN I SPOKE TO YOU IT WAS WITH NEUROTYPICAL PPL IN MIND WHO HAVE A QUIET CALM MIND BECAUSE YOU YOU SAID THE ORIGINAL COMMENTER WAS RIDICULOUS IN WHAT THEY SAID AS YOU SEEMED TO BE SAYING , YET I ALSO AGREED WITH YOU SO … I CANT REMEMBER WHAT ELSE YOU SAID SO IT WILL HAVE TO WAIT … SO TAKE CARE NOW GNIGHT 💛
I think this explains why Cognitive Behavioural Therapy has never worked for me. With CBT you are expected to fill in multiple forms detailing a troubling/anxious/depressing thought, dissect it, analyse it, score it, etc. Therapists say to do this every single time you have one of these thoughts, but I NEVER have just one solitary anxious thought! If I attempted that, there wouldn’t be enough hours in the day, days in the week, or paper on earth, for me to deconstruct every single competing thought I’m worrying about in any given moment, write them all down, try and score them out of ten, and analyse each of them in detail. My "pen" has 1000+ "nibs" and they’re all jammed into my overwhelmed noggin!
I'm a trauma coach and that's why I use thought records w my clients. You can get all the thoughts down and figure out which one is 'bothering' you most, so it doesn't turn into a shame spiral and breaks up the overwhelming thoughts into a manageable process.
@@hshfyugaewfjkKSGet all the thoughts down? By the time I have written down my third thought I have already had 3, 4, 5 new thoughts. It is never ending. Even when I am relaxed and doing great
@@GisellesBeautyAdvise Its even worse having both ASD and ADHD, I want to peruse my special interest which is making music but my brain stops me... and I get overwhelmed and stressed :(
@@TheBanana93this happens to me too with my favorite hobbies. I just can't and that only frustrates me. And if you do manage to start, getting distracted so quickly.
Just know that there is a physical difference in the region of an ADHD brain that is responsible for prioritizing tasks and selecting on to focus on, and switching the brain from random thought mode to focus mode. They can literally see this amd watch it happen on functional MRI images. It doesn't work properly in an ADHD brain. So it 100% isn't you, your brain is literally wired differently and physically can not do that high functioning task sorting and doing like a typical brain can. That's actually the functional reason underlying the video's metaphor. Everyone has all the thoughts. We just can't pick one to focus on amd exclude the others until done. They can. So we end up paralyzed by noise and an inability to pick a task to even start and get shamed and called lazy. Which only feeds back into the problem.
Having adhd and being a parent adds an overwhelming stress factor to your life because you have to force yourself to do things so every day is just stress and dread. Its got to the point i cant mentally or physically cope with anyone or anything outside my home so now i have no friends, zero desire to have friends, bare minimum interaction with family (texts on birthdays and xmas). Sometimes i feel lonely but thats quickly overidden by my comfort in isolation. I still think from time to time damn i miss lockdown
No children here, but I identify with everything else you said. Sending up a prayer for you and everyone else in the club (not sure I'm part of it, though) for peace, happiness and contentment. One day at a time. God bless.
I’m with you. Sometimes I have to just stop and take some time to take slow, deep breaths to try to regulate. You nailed it. It is exhausting and can lead to such overwhelm, guilt and shame. Hang in there. ❤
Oh! So this is what I've been doing too! Man, I didn't even realize. ( I inherited my 4 years old grandson) All I do everyday is catering to my family's needs. Cleaning and organizing but the house stay the same. I don't know what I am doing wrong, though?
@@sigilfredogaleano6568 If the house remains the same, then it's not getting worse or messier, so that attests to what you're doing right in keeping it clean and organized, or to whatever level of clean and organized that it is. Unless it's getting worse, you're maintaining. :)
Never label yourself. Just enjoy who you are, don't try to fit in, and stay the leader that you are, and not a follower. The world is dysfunctional and backwards, it is those with the behaviors and skills that we have, that are here to change it and show what creativity and individuality can do. Just Revel in the wonderfulness of you.❤
@@gal2727why does someone need to tell anyone who they are? No one can determine that. No one can measure another, either. Why would we let someone label us?. Only you need to know that you are a highly evolved spiritual being, with amazing gifts.. others are likely jealous and envious and looking to fit you in a box and expect you to be predictable versus extremely creative and talented. Just because they can't keep up, that is not your problem😊 we are just more advanced.
@@elise9537 … My life has been very unstable. I always say I’m not good at lifeing, lol. But there’s other things that play with me so it’s hard to say. But I will say I’m so grateful to get the diagnosis because i’ve learned so much more about it and other people who have the same experiences as I have. I’ve learned better coping mechanisms and I’m not as hard on myself. So that’s been a huge blessing.
“To Do” lists help me so much. They help me organize my thoughts and keep track of everything I’ve done and have not done. Sometimes, it takes me days/weeks to finish the list, but at least I get things done.
@girlfromgermany when I’m feeling very all over the place and anxious, I write everything down and then, I make a top 3. These are the 3 things I HAVE to get done. When there’s not as much pressure and there are just “things to do” and not “things that are Due”, I write everything down grouped by day and then, just do things in any order. Sometimes, it takes a week and sometimes, I’ll get them done in a day. Either way, as long as I’m committed, “to do” lists help me get my work done 😩
@@girlfromgermany just do any and when you tick off one you get dopamine, feel amazing, so are motivated to do another!! I have to have paper and pen list otherwise I forget about the app/don't open the app/or don't get any dopamine when I tick something off!!
@@girlfromgermanyyou can also number them and then throw a dice or use a spin app. Then just start with a task that appeared. Gamify the process it can help at least to do something..
I got triggered when you said “clean my flat” it’s taken me four days to pack the dishwasher and clean the kitchen…then theres the 100 other things that I need to do, that I’m struggling to start 😢
It gets better with time. As I’ve gotten older I realize how a messy house equals chaotic emotions. I’ve done a ton of decluttering and found an organization method that works for me (Clutterbug) and now my house stays clean, my sink is empty most of the time. I just turned 50 and got my diagnosis two months ago. RUclips has been amazing at helping me find peace. Although I can’t watch it until the end of the day. Scrolling equals no productivity. Healthy Gamer is awesome too. Good luck, you’ve got this!
@cozycasasmr4510 Ask those friends to just turn up unannounced - really friends won't judge but the thought they may appear at any minute may be enough for you to keep your home in semi-decent state. Or not! 😂
@@JT1358 My ex coming over was the main reason I would clean my flat more.... she was like "There is improvement you don't have clothes lying on the floor and stuff cluttered everywhere" My answer was "Because I run around an hour before you get there picking up everything you might pick up on" because she said stuff before. She thought she was trying to help me, like I don't know my flat is a mess and I can't get myself to clean it... I reckon she is autistic with the way she spoke to me a lot of the time and the weird things she did. She wont even entertain the idea.... anyway sorry she only broke up with me yesterday lol because of my ADHD and ASD
I waited for one week just to muster up courage to clean one bathroom. Once I was cleaning one bathroom my mind was always reminding me that I still haven't cleaned the other one. I was so overwhelmed after cleaning one bathroom that I started suffocating. I ended up sleeping for the day.
and here I am crying over this video at 3am, after having more and more revelation after each of the dozen shorts I’ve already watched. I can barely express myself, and I am in absolute awe…how each short feels too close to home
Omg I’ve never heard this explained so perfectly! And usually when I get overwhelmed with thoughts and things I need to do (clean my room, make dinner for my child and myself, wash my hair, bathe my child, take my medications, etc) I get so overwhelmed and exhausted that I end up only focusing on the most pressing things (making enough dinner for my child alone because fixing less food to fix means less time taken up, and getting her bathed and put to bed) and ignoring all the rest. In other words my room is a mess, I forget to eat, my hair goes unwashed for days, and I forget to take my meds. The only thing I consistently remember to do for myself is drink water and go to the restroom. And then when I’m finally not so overwhelmed anymore/when my hair eventually gets too dirty to ignore anymore my depression takes over and I don’t have the energy to wash my hair (so I chug an energy drink to pep myself up and make myself take a 5 minute shower.
When my doctor asked me if I plan on having kids, I was like HELL NAW. I barely just learned how to function to any degree and created a house with a system for myself to help me keep it up. Add a child into this equasion and everyhing will turn to pure chaos for the rest of my natural life. Obviously. Anyways, I'm sorry to hear it's so tough on you. Take good care of yourself, you deserve it.
I find planning... putting it on paper so you can prioritise helps. I personally find routine things bore me 😴 , I'd sooner be learning/doing new things.
My family thinks I'm a flaky, conspiracy theorist who is empassioned easily. Really, I am flaky because I can't guage time right, and drill down in fascinating subjects, and have too much energy so I do talk a lot when it comes to subjects I like, and sometimes gallup from subject to subject and back. Once I realize they're raising their eyebrows at me, I so want to fade!
Same. Not even getting a diagnosis helped because my nurse practitioner says add meds are dangerous and she doesn’t feel comfortable prescribing them…so depressants instead except I’m not depressed I just want to get stuff down in my life
I am sorry but I relate. I'm 31 and just recently found out I was diagnosed as a child and was medicated daily for it. I think it being hidden from me, being unable to research and understand myself and being unable to share this with the few friends I was able to make over the years really did me more harm than protection. Again I'm sorry. Maybe your people aren't supporting you in your endeavors but I'm one of the many wishing you every success in every avenue you're tackling 👊
I'M 72, and have been suffering from EXACTLY what he is talking about all my life. At this kate date, I'm trying to assemble a comprehensive palliative approach for helping my three sons. These type of prsctical explanations are very helpful. Thank you.
This is such a good explanation. Now describe what overwhelm looks like in someone with ADHD. There’s me sitting for hours learning important things off of RUclips, then noticing I seem to be frozen in place with anxiety, contemplate making a plan, feel overwhelmed again, lie down to nap, wake up and try to get started but the anxiety about all the things I am not doing overwhelms me, so I am back on the phone. Make myself get up to do one easy thing, then I am hyper-fixated on my work for hours, so don’t talk to me now!
Thank you for the visual example!!! I’ve tried explaining this to many people , & this helps to deliver the message! In real life for me, the thoughts are much more numerous, and it’s an intense overwhelm. Focus Medicine is a tremendous help to reign in my ability to manage addressing one thought at a time! It calms my overwhelm!!!
This is my life. I work in an office and it takes me forever to try to focus. Then of course I need to pee, but I put it off as long as I can. Once I get up and go to the bathroom, it's going to take me forever to settle back down and get anything done.
I am always stunned at how this man with ADHD can explain things so well. Whenever I try to explain ADHD to someone else it comes out like a jumbled mess.
Thank you!!!! I’m sending your video to my family so they can easily understand what I’ve tried desperately to explain for ages. I have Asperger’s and it’s so close to ADD & ADHD that we had to rule those out with medication. I was awake for 48 hours after taking ONE Ritalin! ADD & ADHD were immediately ruled out. I was 13 at the time, I’m 55 now. My dad’s house had never been so organised EVER. I went through every cupboard, closet, drawer, the garage, basement…it was brutal but he was impressed! The crossover of both is very similar. My husband laughs at my piles of things because I can tell him exactly what is in each one. YOU ARE A GENIUS!!!💚💚💚💚
I'm 60 this year. I am so very fortunate & incredibly thankful for my dh of 27 yrs! He accepted that it was how my brain (mal-) functioned. He retired ~7 yrs ago & now we're together 24/7. Because of that, he's gained a deeper understanding. He has learned how to help me help myself. He is sooo patient it truly blows my mind! I'm also OCD, Bipolar & PTSD. I spent the 1st 1/2 of my life mostly alone because I felt that no one understood me. The harder I tried the worse it got! He taught me "Do ONE thing" Put that spoon in the dishwasher. Period. No pressure at all. Then, "suprise" a lot of times the next thing I know, I've loaded it! Without thinking about it. So just do one thing, whatever it is.Just one thing, period, no pressure or expectations. It kind of blew my mind how it worked for me! He also helped me learn to slow down & focus on little things like my immediate surroundings. I bang my elbows or head because I'm not "present". Focus on what's in my hands or concentrate on where I'm headed & the 1 thing I'm going to do once I get there. Anyhow...
Yes, I also spent most of my life alone wondering what was wrong with me why I was so different from everyone. Then I found my sweetheart and we had 20 wonderful years together. His patience and empathy healed me from all the years of ridicule and friends and family telling me I was a weird loser.
What you describe is how I got my homework done all through college, and achieved a 4.0. I told myself, just read 5 pages, and if you can't do anymore, you're off the hook. Or I'd tell myself, just 15 minutes of writing and if it's overwhelming, you can quit. Almost always, I would end up either getting much more done than I committed to, or I got the homework finished.
This is a perfect visual representation. Thank you! To add to the "fun" of the ADHD overwhelm, I'm also lucky enough to have OCD. So those multiple thoughts going on simultaneously are complicated further by constantly trying to figure out which of those tasks should come first to be most efficient, which is often not necessarily ordered by priority, so there's a war in my head. Priority vs efficiency. So it's extremely confusing -- especially since the ADHD also makes me forgetful, so as soon as I think I figure out what order in which to do these tasks, I forget. Heaven forbid I write things down, because if I do, then it's a list and the order I have decided is rigid. I cannot deviate from that order. So if I get to task #2 and can't complete it, I cannot move on to task #3, #4, or #5. The cherry on top is the emotional dysregulation, which escalates my frustration to anger, then self-hate so quickly. So it can go from "this is frustrating" to "I probably shouldn't be alive" extremely quickly. So I end up shut down just trying to survive, getting nothing done. Anyone else? 🙃
SO MUCH! ALL OF THIS. Are you also constantly doing things like adding up digits in a day's date to find out if the number is a "good" one to start something new? (Usually a complete life overhaul, because we can't just make one small change at a time. It's all or nothing, and then getting overwhelmed and giving up.) What's really fun is adding my autism on top of that, where I get the burnout so bad that even the idea of something as simple as eating causes me to shut down completely because there's too many steps.
Not sure if it's exactly the same but sensory overwhelm does this for me. I'll be at my desk and all the noise and lights and movement has my brain screaming to get out of there, get up and move, do SOMETHING, it's too much input!! Worst thing is no one can see what's going on so they think you're just being silly when you've already been at your threshold for hours trying to stay still and pretend you're not internally unraveling
Dear ALEX! You are an ABSOLUTE TOTAL LEGEND!!!!❤️ I always thought I was different but could NOT EXPLAIN WHY??? I never understood why my poor Mum &Dad; Twin brother would be SO EXASPERATED WITH ME??!!!! My twin brother & I are 69 now and it's taken ME ALL THIS TIME TO TRY AND WORK OUT WHY I'M DIFFERENT AND WHY I LIKE I AM!!!! I AM NOT DIAGNOSED AND PROBABLY WONT EVER FIND OUT BUT THAT'S LIFE IT's TRYING TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IS WHAT AND LIVING WITH IT!!!! Bless you always ALEX. You are amaZing & AWESOME. I just love your videos so much:-)❤️
Perfect analogy. Pens are in my pocket & now I will embrace explaining what was once unexplainable! After I’ve made my bed. The packed lunches. My mind up on what to wear, eat, drink, say & so on & so forth. Never stop. You make a difference.
This is a great description of what's going on in my head at any given time. Just add music playing because I've always got a song on repeat. So much chaos in my head!
Oh my God THE SONG REPEATING.... every day, I often don't know where they originate. I know all the songs, but why does THAT one kick in today? Sometimes it's based on a passing thought I have that kicks in associated lyrics. Other times I think maybe it was playing as the background in a store & I didn't consciously notice, but brought it out with me. Sometimes it's a song I never liked, but my brain recorded it from overplay on the radio. Today, I shit you not, it was the kid's song "3 Blind Mice." The lyrics are disgusting - she cut off their tails with a carving knife!??!! 😱 WHY was it in my head? Maybe because I was by the fountain that I fished a dead mouse out of last week? But that's just a guess. SIGH
My learning & explaining is very visual & physical. Hands flying when I talk. And you have to look at me when I'm explaining or I don't think you're going to understand because you can't see my pantomime 😂😂😂. My husband just pointed out that when I talk, which is a lot, I have to repeat the same idea 3 times with different words! I was like Oh, do I? And dang if he wasn't right 😂😂
@@anothrbrickinthewall. I feel you. My family emigrated to Australia, married an Australian, he was used to my gesticulations. Used to say if I had my hands cut off, I wouldn’t be able to talk. We visited family in the UK a cousin invited us for dinner, my cousin sat on one side of my husband with me on the other, all of a sudden my husband couldn’t take it anymore, and he said “OMG I’ve got it in stereo!!” He grabbed my hands turned to me and said “sit on them, if I have to get through this dinner, I can only cope with MONO and verbal….😂 “
I like that analogy. I think there are other types of overwhelm too, though. Sometimes for me, I am overwhelmed by one simple task, and can never do it. I had this assignment I had to do and I had a week. I wanted to do it the first day, but every day when I had gotten everything else out of the way or I finally had time to think about it, I could never do it because of the impending importance that I had to *do it*, in general. Knowing I had to complete it but might not for some reason, or knowing that I didn’t know all the information off the top of my head to complete it super fast once I picked it up put this overwhelming scare in my brain each time I thought about it. Every day I planned for/ told myself I would do it, but it’s looming existence was too scary for me to start until I knew I absolutely had to or I would be turning it in late. Even today, the day It was finally due, I was paralyzed in my chair for like 2 minutes because my body wouldn’t move from that overwhelm. I had to physically go in my mind “okay. What do I know? I know I have to do my assignment. How do I do that? I get it out of my backpack right there. To do that I need to move my hand to unzip it” and I had to force myself every second to finally only pick it up. Of course it was absolutely fine after that, it was easy and I submitted it
Yup! Then, like you said, you started it & it was like "why was I so freaked out?!" Having that "project" hanging out there-you ruined how many days & laid awake how many nights?! worrying
This is a common symptom of ADHD and it is very closely related to Oppisitional Defiance Disorder. We don't have the disorder, but since both ADHD and ODD stem from physical differences in the pre frontal cortex there is symptom overlap. Basically, when we are told we MUST do something, or when we are directed to do something, we immediately don't want to do it. It feels like a bit of our freedom has been taken away and we react by refusing to do it as a way to reclaim our freedom. It is even called Reactance many times. Like you are carrying the vacuum to clean a room and someone says for you to go clean the room not knowing you are and instantly you no longer want to clean the room. And it can be an extremely strong overriding emotional response even. So being told how important a paper is and it's so much of your grade and you have to do it, is going to absolutely elicit this response.
💯 welcome to my world.. that is me to a tee, and, when i do finally “get to it (said project, as in my translation assignments)” i start backwards, or in random order, jumping all around, in doing so, i’m pleasantly surprised when i realize i come across sections i’ve completed & upon reviewing pages in order, suddenly see that i’m actually done! 🤭🤷🏻♀️
BRILLIANT!!! This is the best physical representation of the constant struggle I face. ... Writing this comment took 18 minutes because I was keeping ahold of and considering the words I wanted to use to convey my gratitude and personal experience while I simultaneously thought I should share this video, that I need a shower, confirming to myself that I, too, am forgetting to text my friend back and I will be sure to do that as soon as I'm done with this comment, that I'm hungry, that I maybe missed that appointment with Neurology and I should check because that is a very important meeting, hating myself for my dysfunction, asking "What was that word I wanted to use?" and being reminded that I've lost the point I was going to make with that forgotten word so I should retrace my thoughts, that I should hurry up because I need to pet and cuddle my dog to releave my anxiety from thinking about how I am struggling to even write a comment on a very relateable video, I should google that guy with the world's lowest voice, that I'm sure I'm forgetting to do something important, "Ooooo! I should make a new sculpture for my yard out of that bit of wood I remember seeing on my walk", "Wait, what day is it?", asking myself " why does my eye itch so bad?", and "CRAP!!!" I don't know where I set down that tool I just had that I left my important project to find before I got distracted by a notification on my phone that lead me to mindlessly opening RUclips and stumbling across this video, and I'm certain I am missing some of the thoughts I had and tried to capture while writing this to make make my point. NOW, re-read all of what you just wrote and spend another 10 minutes revising and checking for grammatical errors while sorting through yet another couple of dozen thoughts. NOW, re-re-read and correct the mixed up and/or disjointed sentences I made because I wanted to change or add something, And, NOW, go back and change the number of minutes I claimed this post took. FML 🙄😮💨
So true! The crazy thing is that looking at the silver pen (right now) feels so calming, and the other pen is what I usually want to click, cliick, click, ooohhhhh pretty, cool...awwwwe, neat, click click. Right now - I'm in overwhelm, so even looking at the multi colored one is adding to the overwhelm....needing to decompresssssss.... where's my ice, i'm giong to the lock-the-door -room.
But if you write down all you need to do, categorized by each color, scratch them off and before finished with all. Decide they’re too messy. Write them all again in different colors. Some items on repeat each week or month. Oh how wonderful to have an ongoing, never ending list of things to do… not.
I think this is why weed "helped" me. it brought the 100 thoughts down to just the capacity for a few. I liked it because i could focus on one thing.. the problem though, is that if that was the WRONG thing, it was a total waste of my day.
The overwhelm is truly a baseline practically every minute of every day, and when the rare moment comes when I’m not experiencing it, it feels almost scary, like I’m not doing my “job” of being overwhelmed with trying to prioritize the giant, constantly changing list of tasks in my head as a single parent of three middle schoolers and also a student in an accounting master’s program. And fair warning to women who haven’t arrived at this stage yet: perimenopause has made my ADHD profoundly more challenging to cope with. I recently read about the effectiveness of neurofeedback, and praying I can find a provider so that I can try it someday 🙏🤞
Just learning myself the perils of perimenopause exacerbating ADHD symptoms - my executive function is on vacation, please ask it to wait should it return before it gets back. And the overwhelm/shutdown has reached frightening levels. 🤯 Reverse puberty, cool cool. 😩
(Adhd me) Truth! That is the pen I use!!! So many colours so I don't get bored making a list... So many choices so much fun... zzzz makes me tired ❤ 🙂 Spot on • as always•😊
I was very late diagnosis ADHD, and I keep vacillating between whether I believe I have it or not. I don't have problems with some of the most common traits. But this one is dead nuts on. I am experiencing it at work as we speak.
There are varying degrees to how it affects an individual's functioning, so you could have it, but it just might not affect you as bad. I don't have every symptom either, but I was still diagnosed. I believe the criteria is in the DSM book. It should tell you how many symptoms (and for how long) out of how many possible is considered to be ADHD. You may know already, but there are different types, too. The only real way to know is to get tested. 😊
@@westcoastbred7745 I could be giving incorrect info here, but in my knowledge and personal experience - in Australia, in Victoria, (not sure if it’s the same in all states),the diagnosis must be done by a Psychiatrist, who is preferably ADHD-friendly one who is up with the latest research. She/he is also the only med 😊professional allowed to prescribe medication. This was the case about 10years ago though so things might have changed. Just try and make sure to search out an ADHD-friendly practitioner if at all possible. Good luck!
Woof, sorry Katie, me too. I haven't completely succeeded in fixing that yet, very much 25% of the way there, but have you tried using the To Do List function on Goblin Tools? That's what's helped me get what I've got done. You can input any activity or task and it'll break it down into steps, as many or as little as you want. And you can add and subtract steps you need or don't. It can really help with planning and overwhelm. And if that becomes too much, I combine it with using the stopwatch on my phone. If I set it off when I start a tidying task, I don't feel like I have to do an hour's worth or any specific amount because it's more gameified - like, how much will I manage, I can stop any time, but how did I do?? Then I take note of how much I've done in a post it app. And the third layer I gave myself was coming up with accessible treats and needs I have to address but can't get it together to, like a trip around the charity shops on my high street or purchasing a new set of Loops (which I need but haven't got it together to order). I work out how many hours I want to apply to a reward (like an hour for charity shops/Loops but say 3 hours for a new game or 10 hours for an expensive but amazing thing I wouldn't usually justify for myself, but my house is a wreck and it's breaking my brain.) Then I keep track of my work hours with a number up top (overall hours in) and X's next to that for each hour. Then I can delete however many X's when I redeem an award. I still know how much work I've done and I can see how many X's I have in the bank for motivation treats. Goblin Tools is a free website and a super cheap app. I really hope some of this helps because man, this situation is EXHAUSTING. And you need help out of it. But it does work, this hacking away method. My spare room has been a pile of junk for literal years but yesterday morning I got up and just started wading through it. After two hours listening to a podcast and moving stuff around, the room is in MUCH better order, I can stand in it without doing interpretive dance around all the crap and I can get started on turning it into the sensory library I've been wanting for years. I'll probably stall out again a bunch of times but movement is happening, and I feel less awful, which I really needed. I hope the same comes to you, swiftly and easily!
I tackled this a few years ago. Watched a lot of cleaning RUclips. Helped a ton. My house is clean and organized now. I cannot think in a messy space. Look up The Fly Lady Cleaning System with Fly Lady Kat. Konmari. British Cleaning Shows and my favorite... clean with me videos helped me stay motivated in the beginning. Also look up Swedish Death Cleaning. I took a little bit from everything to help me. Be gentle with yourself. Start with one pile, one section. As you progress, you will succeed and feel proud of yourself. Create beautiful spaces and get rid of the junk you don't love or need.
For me (as a previously undiagnosed 60 yrs old female), it's because little light bulbs go off and I'm able to connect the dots of the reasons behind certain behaviors & it's not *MY FAULT* The recognition that I'm not the only one struggling with this. The validation that I'm not crazy, I'm not broken, I'm not lazy, etc. The sadness of how difficult it has been living in a society that doesn't understand it and the loneliness of it all.
Thank you for highlighting this crucial distinction. Your efforts in clarifying the concept of ADHD have made it significantly easier for me to comprehend. Now I can share this with others who don’t understand. Earlier this evening this topic was discussed and others said it’s just people who get distracted easily it’s not a big deal. Everyone can be distracted easily for example someone it reading and a squirrel passes by, you look at it then continue reading. That may be considered as having ADHD I’m not sure but it’s definitely more than that for me. Your explanation is much more accurate. Thanks for sharing this. (Oh look there’s a squirrel ) 🤦🏻♀️
Omg so well explained. I never knew everybody else did not have a bizillion thoughts at once!😮 No wonder I stand in the kitchen wondering what to do as my list keeps getting longer and longer!
Oh my goodness, I totally relate to this and every video you have about adhd! You explain my mind like unraveling a knotted ball of yarn. I'm so glad to understand that this is why I am the way I am. Thank you for your video's!
“I need to drink water…I need to unpack my suitcase” Spot On! I still have mine packed from my trip I took over a month ago. We’re all alright though 😅 God Bless! 🙏❤️🇺🇸
This pen analogy is absolutely spot on. I often become a whirlwind of so many different thoughts needing actions that I feel overwhelmed and unable to focus to achieve any of them
I just recently got away from a 22 year abusive relationship that literally took me 2 years to complete the escape plan and now after several months I have developed a trauma based attention deficit hyperactive disorder along with severe fatigue and tiredness. My doctor says I need to start a therapy called EMDR trauma therapy so I can start processing the trauma and begin the healing process. I’ve been assaulted in every way and even though he’s a felon now with multiple convictions he’s still free which stresses me out. My brain is that multi pen all day long. I have to write everything down so I don’t forget it all
Oh man😢 That's got to be horrible. I understand fear & being "locked" by that... not being able to get completely free from it all. I think there's probably some PTSD stuff there too. You've been living in a battle zone for so long. I'm happy you've gotten so far along. Many people wouldn't have the ability. You're an inspiration ❤
The idea there's people with one thought at a time is mind-blowing.
I think it explains a lot about populist politics tbh...
Right?!??
@thewatcher7823 It’s a scary thought, isn’t it. Wouldn’t know how to deal with that. 😂
@@JojannekevandenBosch I simply would feel something is very wrong if I don't have 6-10 thoughts all tumbling at once. I am 86 years of living this way.
I don't know how to
'single-thought'. That could be a welcome thing....ONE thought at a time. I'd even be able to DO stuff.
They're not as advanced as we are. I'm not saying we should feel pity for them, but they may never be able to catch up to us, or to be as skillful as we are.
and at the end you lie in bed scrolling your phone to increase dopamine to relax for a while. and you are overwhelmed with guilt that you are not doing anything productive.
Happening right now! 😮😊
Every freaking night! Ugh.
just don't be hard on yourself. just take it as it comes. it will go away faster. best regards 🙏
Relaxation is important 😊
Every day .
Excellent analogy. You forgot... I really need a pee but I want to finish what I'm doing 1st, and so the cycle begins 😂.
Hehe hopefully then two of the other thoughts are needng to have a shower and drink some water... Those thoughts can all be completed in the one action! 😂
Yah because if you don't finish it before you pee, you'll just go on to the next thing 😂
This is the worst 😅
Yessssss 💯💯
"I need to pee, but I just don't want to yet"
ADHD isn’t really a "deficit of attention"-it's more like "everything has my attention, and I don't know what to do first!"
the guy explained the exact same thing though…..
@@702prodigy I didn’t mean to be repetitive, I was hoping to offer a supportive perspective... I apologize if it came across differently. 😢
Absolutely correct. Thanks. This describes me so well.
@juliam241 You dont need to apologize to that person. I think saying it like that was really helpful :)
@juliam241 you are totally fine god bless you :)
Perfect description of task initiation paralysis. It is of course accompanied by at least one song on repeat, a rerun of a long ago conversation that didn't go well and memories associated with each of these thoughts with random strong emotions arriving from them .... ..
OMG, yes.
Yes!
100%
I need to get tested. It's like you're in my head🤔
Yes! All the thoughts, all the memories, all the feels, all the time!
he is so real for including „I have to drink water“ as an active thought that interferes with other activities.
Like i have to take a shower and boom its 11pm
@ Saaaame, it is sooo bad sometimes. I hate it when the day just flies by like that.
@@mr-redify 😅😅😢😢
And this is why I love body doubling. Seeing someone else focus on a task, or having someone else help me with something, makes it soo much easier to focus those thoughts and actually get something done.
WHAT?! THAT'S A THING?!? Jfc explains why i can do some tasks that feel impossible so much easier with someone. I never knew why that was.
Doesn't work for me. Add perfectionism to the mix, can't let someone help comfortably.
focusmate
@@Evelaraevia you can do that by using Fiver, hire some dirt cheap indian guys to work on your job on behalf of you, while you're take your sweet time playing Dark Souls or something
@realblockheads8217 that's the thing: they don't help you. They just sit and do their own work. Now you can sit quietly and do yours. You don't have to talk or interact or listen to advice. You can take breaks together or each do your own separately. No one is over your shoulder checking on you
Thats was the best interpretation of ADHD I have ever seen.. and soooo true..
I agree.
And yet my boyfriend STILL doesn't seem to freaking get it...
Because "everyone feels overwhelmed sometimes".
But he can clean the kitchen in 20 minutes.
I spend 20 minutes gathering the will and energy to even get out of bed and walk INTO the kitchen.
Then another 10 surveying the chaos, and trying to form a plan.
Then I can't find the glass cleaner, or the dishwasher is still full, or the front of the fridge is icky, or all that at once, and I spin around in a circle and go back to bed...
Same experience here.. and then comes "You just have to do it!"...🫣😤🙄☹️
It was garbage
Absolutely BRILLIANT way to describe it.
Yes🤩!
Nailed it!
I agree!! Thank you for your wonderful explanations!
However I still get things done. Without meds!!
Yeah! I agree. Downloading it my phone to help explain to friends and relatives. Like we can’t conceive of a person having one thought at a time, likewise, they can’t conceive of being overwhelmed by multiple thoughts simultaneously.
Me? Got seven monkeys in my executive function running the show while the secretary to the CEO making the final decision of what happens when, and my monkeys are literally talking and yelling over each other with their own agendas trying to get the attention of the CEO.
Great illustration chief! Love your content! Now, back to the zoo!
I feel SO seen I'm about to burst into tears. 73. Never knew any of this. Just lived it and navigated it the best I could. Thank you.
😅. I at 68 understand it well...but it doesn't the reality of it....along with the accompanying frustration..
all your life. I am simply tired of living on this crazy ride that seems to be like living on a state fair insanity ride...every day of your life.
@@briobarb8525 totally get that. Totally 💯
I also relate so much I am 54 never diagnosed always wondered why people never got it when I tried to explain, I guess I never got it either but now I do.
Same. Also 73. Thought something was wrong with me from the time I was a child.
@@eleanor5117 me too. I felt like an alien.
My therapist explained it to me pretty well. ADHD Brain is like a tv with a 100 channels opened at once and you’re trying to pay attention to them all at once. And in the end you can’t and don’t watch the tv at all.
(At least without meds)
I used to describe my thought space as having a 100 radio channels turned on at once, that was before I knew I had ADHD. Funny how it took so long to figure that out.
You all must know, it's NOT a disorder, and you will never be dumb or stupid just because people say you're weird.
what advice did she give you to help ?
@@Born2023 honestly cant remember... it was like 9 months ago. But Im pretty sure she just said like meds help with the constant thinking but can have bad side effects
I explain my thoughts as fireworks in my brain and then I have to carefully pick which firework to talk about (its more about communication)
This is so accurate to the point where I even had those same group of thoughts! Unbelievable
No wonder I always loved that pen😂
The colours help to lift off the paper what needs to be remembered.....if I remember to read it 😂
I've always LOATHED that pen. And now it makes sense. 😂😂
❤ My fave! I remember getting one at Disneyland! And my big box of Crayola crayons with 128 different colors!😂
me, too
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
That's ADHD every day...overwhelmed or not. Beautiful metaphor!!
The overwhelm becomes an intensity of paralysis that is so debilitating, it makes those other days feel like "easy" days😢...
@@srldwgyes, I stand there...looking around...stuck..then usually cry 😢
@@anothrbrickinthewallsounds like modern life is so comfortable that millions of people have the luxury to waste time and sit around and think about themselves all day everyday to me 🤷 and still get food and shelter at the end of the day even if it's not what you want to do necessarily
Awesome! Don't forget the simultaneous earworm loop of an ABBA song, being distracted by a fly/rain/wind/sun/shadows/the smell of over-flowing bins and expired salmon, plus any background noise that is going on, in addition to a feeling of impending doom because you're sure you've forgotten something😂
AND you need to put shoes on in order to be productive because the floor is too cold on the feet so it's the only thought occurring while walking around navigating where to begin being productive 😂
😂 Oh, the struggle is so real!
Being in a crowd is a horrific experience. I can hear all of the nearby conversations and my brain keeps trying to focus on one or the other and they drown out the conversation I'm supposed to be a part of. It's near constant noise. And yeah, at least one song on loop, inputs from all the other senses competing for attention, each trying to claim priority status. If I want to hear something I find I have to close my eyes to cut out that sensory input and remove some of the noise. Drives my wife nuts as she thinks I'm not paying attention when I am literally doing the only thing I can TO pay attention. A lot of ADHD people end up introverted and socially withdrawn because people simply don't know what to make of the behavioral things we have to do to accomplish normal tasks. And even when we explain they simply can't grasp it, so we are just looking for excuses to be lazy or uncaring. It's just easier to not be social, and mentally/emotionally quieter. It's actually physically exhausting to try and deal with just my own thoughts much less other people's.
Ooh, ABBA 😃😃. I’m gonna go listen to some. And get a drink. And take my nighttime meds so I can go to bed. Yeah, that’s the ticket!
@@mycroft16👏 👏 👏
I always described my head as a bunch of dogs pulling at each other violently and this guy just said it like a normal person would lol.
Man if that ain’t THE most perfect example of what’s going on in our heads I don’t know what else is. You get an A+.❤
Never in my life have i seen a video better than this one explaining ADHD so damn well!!! 😮
That’s the PERFECT explanation 😊!
As someone with SEVERE ADHD all I want to say is THANK YOU!
Best explanation I’ve seen in a long while!
Same here...
That was a really great visual metaphor.
Yes, I feel understood.
@@Nessamations only if you truly believe non ADHD individuals have one thought at a time. Totally ridiculous.
@@3Zeppoli NO , OF COURSE OTHERS ( ADULTS ) HAVE OTHER THOUGHTS & WORRY ABOUT A FEW DIFFERENT THINGS … HOWEVER ITS NOT THE SAME & YOU WILL SADLY NEVER UNDERSTAND THAT & ARE LUCKY 💛
@@MelanieMacDonalDMELSPLAYLISTS Well that's presumptuous. You have no idea what my thought process is or why. I'm not speaking about a couple thoughts either. There are many reasons for this and not all of them are a syndrome, a disorder, or a disease. High intelligence for example. Personality type as well, such as those with high openness to experience and low consciousness. Then there are neurodivergent individuals that are stimulation seekers rather than avoiders. Also highly creative individuals can present with multiple random thoughts on a rather continuous basis. Of course there are those with bipolar especially during their manic phase. It's just irresponsible to pigeon hole everyone that experiences what this video describes and clump them all together into ADHD. And most annoying are those that cling to ADHD as a comfy security blanket or an identity. "I'm ADHD" rather than I have ADHD. Or "My ADHD" like it's a cherished possession or a fond friend. It's literally something to be managed not a stamp of identity or uniqueness. In conclusion, please don't tell me I'm lucky when you don't even know me. This isn't personal, it's a criticism on the video and too many generalizations. I rather enjoy my fast paced thought process and my ability to connect random ideas and patterns quickly, I wouldn't say someone who lacks that as you assumed I do is lucky. I also wouldn't say someone who has that ability/trait should be labeled with a disorder.
@@3Zeppoli I HAVENT GOT TIME TO READ YOUR COMMENT IN FULL UNTIL I GET UP AS ITS ALMOST 3 AM & I GUESS I SHOULD HAVE SAID EXCUSE MY CAPS ( NOT SHOUTING BTW ) I GUESS YOU ASSUMED I WAS WHICH IS WHY YOU ARE REACTING TO ME THE WAY YOU ARE & I DO NOT WANT TO BE GETTING INTO ARGUMENTS SO CAN YOU STOP TALKING TO ME LIKE YOU ARE OVER AN OBVIOUS MISUNDERSTANDING & WHEN I SPOKE TO YOU IT WAS WITH NEUROTYPICAL PPL IN MIND WHO HAVE A QUIET CALM MIND BECAUSE YOU YOU SAID THE ORIGINAL COMMENTER WAS RIDICULOUS IN WHAT THEY SAID AS YOU SEEMED TO BE SAYING , YET I ALSO AGREED WITH YOU SO … I CANT REMEMBER WHAT ELSE YOU SAID SO IT WILL HAVE TO WAIT … SO TAKE CARE NOW GNIGHT 💛
This is an excellent way of describing how ADHD works in our brain when we get overwhelmed. Thank you for seeing us! ❤
This is the best practical explanation of ADHD I've heard so far
This is the best description of the inside of my mind on a daily basis that I have ever seen.
I think this explains why Cognitive Behavioural Therapy has never worked for me. With CBT you are expected to fill in multiple forms detailing a troubling/anxious/depressing thought, dissect it, analyse it, score it, etc. Therapists say to do this every single time you have one of these thoughts, but I NEVER have just one solitary anxious thought! If I attempted that, there wouldn’t be enough hours in the day, days in the week, or paper on earth, for me to deconstruct every single competing thought I’m worrying about in any given moment, write them all down, try and score them out of ten, and analyse each of them in detail. My "pen" has 1000+ "nibs" and they’re all jammed into my overwhelmed noggin!
Thank you for that insight. I agree 💯%.
I'm a trauma coach and that's why I use thought records w my clients. You can get all the thoughts down and figure out which one is 'bothering' you most, so it doesn't turn into a shame spiral and breaks up the overwhelming thoughts into a manageable process.
Totally. Not to mention the overwhelm just imagining my having to do such a complex, step-by-step activity to begin with.
@@hshfyugaewfjkKSGet all the thoughts down? By the time I have written down my third thought I have already had 3, 4, 5 new thoughts. It is never ending. Even when I am relaxed and doing great
That's why I could never finish step 4 in the 12 step recovery classes
Take an inventory
And all you do is freeze and feel overwhelmed .
And cry! Ugh! 😢
Yelp... freezing is what I do and why I haven't made another video on my RUclips channel... It sucks 😔
@@GisellesBeautyAdvise Its even worse having both ASD and ADHD, I want to peruse my special interest which is making music but my brain stops me... and I get overwhelmed and stressed :(
@@TheBanana93this happens to me too with my favorite hobbies. I just can't and that only frustrates me. And if you do manage to start, getting distracted so quickly.
Just know that there is a physical difference in the region of an ADHD brain that is responsible for prioritizing tasks and selecting on to focus on, and switching the brain from random thought mode to focus mode. They can literally see this amd watch it happen on functional MRI images. It doesn't work properly in an ADHD brain. So it 100% isn't you, your brain is literally wired differently and physically can not do that high functioning task sorting and doing like a typical brain can. That's actually the functional reason underlying the video's metaphor. Everyone has all the thoughts. We just can't pick one to focus on amd exclude the others until done. They can. So we end up paralyzed by noise and an inability to pick a task to even start and get shamed and called lazy. Which only feeds back into the problem.
I love how you put it into the simplest terms so anyone can understand.
This is 100% accurate! Alex, as always spot on! 👌
You explained it very well. Good analogy.
Having adhd and being a parent adds an overwhelming stress factor to your life because you have to force yourself to do things so every day is just stress and dread. Its got to the point i cant mentally or physically cope with anyone or anything outside my home so now i have no friends, zero desire to have friends, bare minimum interaction with family (texts on birthdays and xmas). Sometimes i feel lonely but thats quickly overidden by my comfort in isolation. I still think from time to time damn i miss lockdown
No children here, but I identify with everything else you said. Sending up a prayer for you and everyone else in the club (not sure I'm part of it, though) for peace, happiness and contentment. One day at a time. God bless.
I’m with you. Sometimes I have to just stop and take some time to take slow, deep breaths to try to regulate. You nailed it. It is exhausting and can lead to such overwhelm, guilt and shame. Hang in there. ❤
Oh! So this is what I've been doing too! Man, I didn't even realize.
( I inherited my 4 years old grandson)
All I do everyday is catering to my family's needs. Cleaning and organizing but the house stay the same. I don't know what I am doing wrong, though?
@@sigilfredogaleano6568
If the house remains the same, then it's not getting worse or messier, so that attests to what you're doing right in keeping it clean and organized, or to whatever level of clean and organized that it is. Unless it's getting worse, you're maintaining. :)
I dont have kids but i am pretty sure I would forget to feed them if I didn't have to eat also.
Never in a million years would I have thought I had ADHD - but watching your series of short clips - I think I may have it!
I was just diagnosed and I’m a 52-year-old woman. Apparently we have fallen through the cracks.
Never label yourself. Just enjoy who you are, don't try to fit in, and stay the leader that you are, and not a follower. The world is dysfunctional and backwards, it is those with the behaviors and skills that we have, that are here to change it and show what creativity and individuality can do. Just Revel in the wonderfulness of you.❤
@@gal2727why does someone need to tell anyone who they are? No one can determine that. No one can measure another, either. Why would we let someone label us?. Only you need to know that you are a highly evolved spiritual being, with amazing gifts.. others are likely jealous and envious and looking to fit you in a box and expect you to be predictable versus extremely creative and talented. Just because they can't keep up, that is not your problem😊 we are just more advanced.
@@gal2727hugs. How was your life like?
@@elise9537 … My life has been very unstable. I always say I’m not good at lifeing, lol. But there’s other things that play with me so it’s hard to say. But I will say I’m so grateful to get the diagnosis because i’ve learned so much more about it and other people who have the same experiences as I have. I’ve learned better coping mechanisms and I’m not as hard on myself. So that’s been a huge blessing.
The most accurate and brilliant explanation that I could never find the words for.
“To Do” lists help me so much. They help me organize my thoughts and keep track of everything I’ve done and have not done. Sometimes, it takes me days/weeks to finish the list, but at least I get things done.
But how do you prioritize and decide with what you'll start and how you'll go on? Or do you just do whatever is on the list in no particular order?
@girlfromgermany when I’m feeling very all over the place and anxious, I write everything down and then, I make a top 3. These are the 3 things I HAVE to get done. When there’s not as much pressure and there are just “things to do” and not “things that are Due”, I write everything down grouped by day and then, just do things in any order. Sometimes, it takes a week and sometimes, I’ll get them done in a day. Either way, as long as I’m committed, “to do” lists help me get my work done 😩
@@girlfromgermany just do any and when you tick off one you get dopamine, feel amazing, so are motivated to do another!! I have to have paper and pen list otherwise I forget about the app/don't open the app/or don't get any dopamine when I tick something off!!
@@girlfromgermanyyou can also number them and then throw a dice or use a spin app. Then just start with a task that appeared. Gamify the process it can help at least to do something..
Yeah all successful adults use tools to overcome their challenges. Excuses and pills and feigning for sympathy don't get you anywhere
I got triggered when you said “clean my flat” it’s taken me four days to pack the dishwasher and clean the kitchen…then theres the 100 other things that I need to do, that I’m struggling to start 😢
It gets better with time. As I’ve gotten older I realize how a messy house equals chaotic emotions. I’ve done a ton of decluttering and found an organization method that works for me (Clutterbug) and now my house stays clean, my sink is empty most of the time. I just turned 50 and got my diagnosis two months ago. RUclips has been amazing at helping me find peace. Although I can’t watch it until the end of the day. Scrolling equals no productivity. Healthy Gamer is awesome too. Good luck, you’ve got this!
I've been living alone for 2 years and this is still my weekly problem 😂❤ I need to invite friends over so I have a proper excuse to clean
@cozycasasmr4510 Ask those friends to just turn up unannounced - really friends won't judge but the thought they may appear at any minute may be enough for you to keep your home in semi-decent state. Or not! 😂
@@JT1358 My ex coming over was the main reason I would clean my flat more.... she was like "There is improvement you don't have clothes lying on the floor and stuff cluttered everywhere" My answer was "Because I run around an hour before you get there picking up everything you might pick up on" because she said stuff before. She thought she was trying to help me, like I don't know my flat is a mess and I can't get myself to clean it... I reckon she is autistic with the way she spoke to me a lot of the time and the weird things she did. She wont even entertain the idea.... anyway sorry she only broke up with me yesterday lol because of my ADHD and ASD
I waited for one week just to muster up courage to clean one bathroom. Once I was cleaning one bathroom my mind was always reminding me that I still haven't cleaned the other one. I was so overwhelmed after cleaning one bathroom that I started suffocating. I ended up sleeping for the day.
and here I am crying over this video at 3am, after having more and more revelation after each of the dozen shorts I’ve already watched. I can barely express myself, and I am in absolute awe…how each short feels too close to home
Omg I’ve never heard this explained so perfectly! And usually when I get overwhelmed with thoughts and things I need to do (clean my room, make dinner for my child and myself, wash my hair, bathe my child, take my medications, etc) I get so overwhelmed and exhausted that I end up only focusing on the most pressing things (making enough dinner for my child alone because fixing less food to fix means less time taken up, and getting her bathed and put to bed) and ignoring all the rest. In other words my room is a mess, I forget to eat, my hair goes unwashed for days, and I forget to take my meds. The only thing I consistently remember to do for myself is drink water and go to the restroom.
And then when I’m finally not so overwhelmed anymore/when my hair eventually gets too dirty to ignore anymore my depression takes over and I don’t have the energy to wash my hair (so I chug an energy drink to pep myself up and make myself take a 5 minute shower.
When my doctor asked me if I plan on having kids, I was like HELL NAW. I barely just learned how to function to any degree and created a house with a system for myself to help me keep it up. Add a child into this equasion and everyhing will turn to pure chaos for the rest of my natural life. Obviously.
Anyways, I'm sorry to hear it's so tough on you. Take good care of yourself, you deserve it.
Gaiz... don't make all this your identity. There are way to improve.
I find planning... putting it on paper so you can prioritise helps.
I personally find routine things bore me 😴 , I'd sooner be learning/doing new things.
And still no one understands me or ever support me but instead criticise and shame me for wanting to do too many things at the same time.
My family thinks I'm a flaky, conspiracy theorist who is empassioned easily. Really, I am flaky because I can't guage time right, and drill down in fascinating subjects, and have too much energy so I do talk a lot when it comes to subjects I like, and sometimes gallup from subject to subject and back. Once I realize they're raising their eyebrows at me, I so want to fade!
YES!!!❤
A person without ADHD here, watching these videos to understand my ADHD friends better, and to meet their needs. We'll have your back.
Same. Not even getting a diagnosis helped because my nurse practitioner says add meds are dangerous and she doesn’t feel comfortable prescribing them…so depressants instead except I’m not depressed I just want to get stuff down in my life
I am sorry but I relate. I'm 31 and just recently found out I was diagnosed as a child and was medicated daily for it. I think it being hidden from me, being unable to research and understand myself and being unable to share this with the few friends I was able to make over the years really did me more harm than protection. Again I'm sorry.
Maybe your people aren't supporting you in your endeavors but I'm one of the many wishing you every success in every avenue you're tackling 👊
Also... those pens were THE BOMBBB when I was a kid and now I want one again 😅
Wow! Love the pen analogy! Great way to explain it all, so right on!!
I'M 72, and have been suffering from EXACTLY what he is talking about all my life. At this kate date, I'm trying to assemble a comprehensive palliative approach for helping my three sons. These type of prsctical explanations are very helpful. Thank you.
This is the most relatable video ever!
This is a brilliant way to describe ADHD. Thank you
What a great representation of the overwhelm I feel everyday! Thank you!
Brilliant !! You describe my internal chaos soo accurately ..thank you 😂😂❤
This is such a good explanation. Now describe what overwhelm looks like in someone with ADHD. There’s me sitting for hours learning important things off of RUclips, then noticing I seem to be frozen in place with anxiety, contemplate making a plan, feel overwhelmed again, lie down to nap, wake up and try to get started but the anxiety about all the things I am not doing overwhelms me, so I am back on the phone. Make myself get up to do one easy thing, then I am hyper-fixated on my work for hours, so don’t talk to me now!
OMG parking ticket...unpack suitcase...clean flat...So relatable!
Thank you for the visual example!!!
I’ve tried explaining this to many people , & this helps to deliver the message! In real life for me, the thoughts are much more numerous, and it’s an intense overwhelm.
Focus Medicine is a tremendous help to reign in my ability to manage addressing one thought at a time! It calms my overwhelm!!!
This is my life. I work in an office and it takes me forever to try to focus. Then of course I need to pee, but I put it off as long as I can. Once I get up and go to the bathroom, it's going to take me forever to settle back down and get anything done.
You should really try mindfulness meditation. It helps me slow down and "put my wheels on the ground" so they don't spin aimlessly at 1000 mph.
@@h0ph1p13 Agreed. Meditation helped more than drugs in the long run for me, plus always available, no dose adjustments needed.
I totally get this. This is me!😅
@@h0ph1p13I'm just learning about this as we speak 😊
Isn't this procrastination?
YOU are a genius my friend! Thank you for that perfect representative presentation of my mind!!
I am always stunned at how this man with ADHD can explain things so well. Whenever I try to explain ADHD to someone else it comes out like a jumbled mess.
Thank you!!!! I’m sending your video to my family so they can easily understand what I’ve tried desperately to explain for ages. I have Asperger’s and it’s so close to ADD & ADHD that we had to rule those out with medication. I was awake for 48 hours after taking ONE Ritalin! ADD & ADHD were immediately ruled out. I was 13 at the time, I’m 55 now. My dad’s house had never been so organised EVER. I went through every cupboard, closet, drawer, the garage, basement…it was brutal but he was impressed! The crossover of both is very similar. My husband laughs at my piles of things because I can tell him exactly what is in each one. YOU ARE A GENIUS!!!💚💚💚💚
Fucking brilliant and I’ve never seen such accurate depiction
I'm 60 this year. I am so very fortunate & incredibly thankful for my dh of 27 yrs! He accepted that it was how my brain (mal-) functioned. He retired ~7 yrs ago & now we're together 24/7. Because of that, he's gained a deeper understanding. He has learned how to help me help myself. He is sooo patient it truly blows my mind! I'm also OCD, Bipolar & PTSD. I spent the 1st 1/2 of my life mostly alone because I felt that no one understood me. The harder I tried the worse it got! He taught me "Do ONE thing" Put that spoon in the dishwasher. Period. No pressure at all. Then, "suprise" a lot of times the next thing I know, I've loaded it! Without thinking about it. So just do one thing, whatever it is.Just one thing, period, no pressure or expectations. It kind of blew my mind how it worked for me! He also helped me learn to slow down & focus on little things like my immediate surroundings. I bang my elbows or head because I'm not "present". Focus on what's in my hands or concentrate on where I'm headed & the 1 thing I'm going to do once I get there. Anyhow...
Glad you have someone so understanding and supportive!
Yes, I also spent most of my life alone wondering what was wrong with me why I was so different from everyone. Then I found my sweetheart and we had 20 wonderful years together. His patience and empathy healed me from all the years of ridicule and friends and family telling me I was a weird loser.
What you describe is how I got my homework done all through college, and achieved a 4.0. I told myself, just read 5 pages, and if you can't do anymore, you're off the hook. Or I'd tell myself, just 15 minutes of writing and if it's overwhelming, you can quit. Almost always, I would end up either getting much more done than I committed to, or I got the homework finished.
Your story gives me hope I'll one day tolerate someone and vice versa
Omg sounds like me!
This is a perfect visual representation. Thank you!
To add to the "fun" of the ADHD overwhelm, I'm also lucky enough to have OCD. So those multiple thoughts going on simultaneously are complicated further by constantly trying to figure out which of those tasks should come first to be most efficient, which is often not necessarily ordered by priority, so there's a war in my head. Priority vs efficiency.
So it's extremely confusing -- especially since the ADHD also makes me forgetful, so as soon as I think I figure out what order in which to do these tasks, I forget.
Heaven forbid I write things down, because if I do, then it's a list and the order I have decided is rigid. I cannot deviate from that order. So if I get to task #2 and can't complete it, I cannot move on to task #3, #4, or #5.
The cherry on top is the emotional dysregulation, which escalates my frustration to anger, then self-hate so quickly. So it can go from "this is frustrating" to "I probably shouldn't be alive" extremely quickly.
So I end up shut down just trying to survive, getting nothing done.
Anyone else? 🙃
SO MUCH! ALL OF THIS. Are you also constantly doing things like adding up digits in a day's date to find out if the number is a "good" one to start something new? (Usually a complete life overhaul, because we can't just make one small change at a time. It's all or nothing, and then getting overwhelmed and giving up.)
What's really fun is adding my autism on top of that, where I get the burnout so bad that even the idea of something as simple as eating causes me to shut down completely because there's too many steps.
Yup. ❤
Yes, i understand as well.
You're not alone.
Not sure if it's exactly the same but sensory overwhelm does this for me. I'll be at my desk and all the noise and lights and movement has my brain screaming to get out of there, get up and move, do SOMETHING, it's too much input!! Worst thing is no one can see what's going on so they think you're just being silly when you've already been at your threshold for hours trying to stay still and pretend you're not internally unraveling
AuDHD, so very similarly right there with ya, ha.
PERFECT explanation! Exactly how I feel right now 😭 it’s so exhausting and frustrating
Dear ALEX!
You are an ABSOLUTE TOTAL LEGEND!!!!❤️
I always thought I was different but could NOT EXPLAIN WHY???
I never understood why my poor Mum &Dad; Twin brother would be SO EXASPERATED WITH ME??!!!!
My twin brother & I are 69 now and it's taken ME ALL THIS TIME TO TRY AND WORK OUT WHY I'M DIFFERENT AND WHY I LIKE I AM!!!! I AM NOT DIAGNOSED AND PROBABLY WONT EVER FIND OUT BUT THAT'S LIFE IT's TRYING TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IS WHAT AND LIVING WITH IT!!!! Bless you always ALEX. You are amaZing & AWESOME. I just love your videos so much:-)❤️
PERFECTLY explained! The struggle is REAL!
Perfect analogy. Pens are in my pocket & now I will embrace explaining what was once unexplainable! After I’ve made my bed. The packed lunches. My mind up on what to wear, eat, drink, say & so on & so forth. Never stop. You make a difference.
Man that's me, wonderful explanation 💯✅️✅️✅️
Oh my gosh...me too!
Thank you for putting my brain into words. Excellent illustration.
Always loved those multi color clik pens
Absolutely brilliant way of explaining & describing ADHD. That’s EXACTLY what it’s like! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
This is a great description of what's going on in my head at any given time. Just add music playing because I've always got a song on repeat. So much chaos in my head!
Oh my God THE SONG REPEATING.... every day, I often don't know where they originate. I know all the songs, but why does THAT one kick in today? Sometimes it's based on a passing thought I have that kicks in associated lyrics. Other times I think maybe it was playing as the background in a store & I didn't consciously notice, but brought it out with me. Sometimes it's a song I never liked, but my brain recorded it from overplay on the radio.
Today, I shit you not, it was the kid's song "3 Blind Mice." The lyrics are disgusting - she cut off their tails with a carving knife!??!! 😱 WHY was it in my head? Maybe because I was by the fountain that I fished a dead mouse out of last week? But that's just a guess. SIGH
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i just sent this to my boyfriend. thank you for the sighs of relief you bring me 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Beautiful explanation ❤❤❤
Great visual metaphor. Pen just needs more colours.
My learning & explaining is very visual & physical. Hands flying when I talk. And you have to look at me when I'm explaining or I don't think you're going to understand because you can't see my pantomime 😂😂😂. My husband just pointed out that when I talk, which is a lot, I have to repeat the same idea 3 times with different words! I was like Oh, do I? And dang if he wasn't right 😂😂
@@anothrbrickinthewall. I feel you. My family emigrated to Australia, married an Australian, he was used to my gesticulations. Used to say if I had my hands cut off, I wouldn’t be able to talk.
We visited family in the UK a cousin invited us for dinner, my cousin sat on one side of my husband with me on the other, all of a sudden my husband couldn’t take it anymore, and he said “OMG I’ve got it in stereo!!”
He grabbed my hands turned to me and said “sit on them, if I have to get through this dinner, I can only cope with MONO and verbal….😂 “
Yes, and different tips, like felt tip, calligraphy tips...
@@createa.googleaccount713 Understand perfectly, I use those too. 😂👍
Yes, and some addictions and substance abuse issues it uses as coping mechanisms 🍺🧠🤳
I like that analogy. I think there are other types of overwhelm too, though. Sometimes for me, I am overwhelmed by one simple task, and can never do it. I had this assignment I had to do and I had a week. I wanted to do it the first day, but every day when I had gotten everything else out of the way or I finally had time to think about it, I could never do it because of the impending importance that I had to *do it*, in general. Knowing I had to complete it but might not for some reason, or knowing that I didn’t know all the information off the top of my head to complete it super fast once I picked it up put this overwhelming scare in my brain each time I thought about it. Every day I planned for/ told myself I would do it, but it’s looming existence was too scary for me to start until I knew I absolutely had to or I would be turning it in late. Even today, the day It was finally due, I was paralyzed in my chair for like 2 minutes because my body wouldn’t move from that overwhelm. I had to physically go in my mind “okay. What do I know? I know I have to do my assignment. How do I do that? I get it out of my backpack right there. To do that I need to move my hand to unzip it” and I had to force myself every second to finally only pick it up. Of course it was absolutely fine after that, it was easy and I submitted it
I agree. I have what you've described really bad too!
Yup! Then, like you said, you started it & it was like "why was I so freaked out?!" Having that "project" hanging out there-you ruined how many days & laid awake how many nights?! worrying
This is a common symptom of ADHD and it is very closely related to Oppisitional Defiance Disorder. We don't have the disorder, but since both ADHD and ODD stem from physical differences in the pre frontal cortex there is symptom overlap. Basically, when we are told we MUST do something, or when we are directed to do something, we immediately don't want to do it. It feels like a bit of our freedom has been taken away and we react by refusing to do it as a way to reclaim our freedom. It is even called Reactance many times. Like you are carrying the vacuum to clean a room and someone says for you to go clean the room not knowing you are and instantly you no longer want to clean the room. And it can be an extremely strong overriding emotional response even. So being told how important a paper is and it's so much of your grade and you have to do it, is going to absolutely elicit this response.
💯 welcome to my world.. that is me to a tee, and, when i do finally “get to it (said project, as in my translation assignments)” i start backwards, or in random order, jumping all around, in doing so, i’m pleasantly surprised when i realize i come across sections i’ve completed & upon reviewing pages in order, suddenly see that i’m actually done! 🤭🤷🏻♀️
BRILLIANT!!! This is the best physical representation of the constant struggle I face. ... Writing this comment took 18 minutes because I was keeping ahold of and considering the words I wanted to use to convey my gratitude and personal experience while I simultaneously thought I should share this video, that I need a shower, confirming to myself that I, too, am forgetting to text my friend back and I will be sure to do that as soon as I'm done with this comment, that I'm hungry, that I maybe missed that appointment with Neurology and I should check because that is a very important meeting, hating myself for my dysfunction, asking "What was that word I wanted to use?" and being reminded that I've lost the point I was going to make with that forgotten word so I should retrace my thoughts, that I should hurry up because I need to pet and cuddle my dog to releave my anxiety from thinking about how I am struggling to even write a comment on a very relateable video, I should google that guy with the world's lowest voice, that I'm sure I'm forgetting to do something important, "Ooooo! I should make a new sculpture for my yard out of that bit of wood I remember seeing on my walk", "Wait, what day is it?", asking myself " why does my eye itch so bad?", and "CRAP!!!" I don't know where I set down that tool I just had that I left my important project to find before I got distracted by a notification on my phone that lead me to mindlessly opening RUclips and stumbling across this video, and I'm certain I am missing some of the thoughts I had and tried to capture while writing this to make make my point. NOW, re-read all of what you just wrote and spend another 10 minutes revising and checking for grammatical errors while sorting through yet another couple of dozen thoughts. NOW, re-re-read and correct the mixed up and/or disjointed sentences I made because I wanted to change or add something, And, NOW, go back and change the number of minutes I claimed this post took. FML 🙄😮💨
So true! The crazy thing is that looking at the silver pen (right now) feels so calming, and the other pen is what I usually want to click, cliick, click, ooohhhhh pretty, cool...awwwwe, neat, click click. Right now - I'm in overwhelm, so even looking at the multi colored one is adding to the overwhelm....needing to decompresssssss.... where's my ice, i'm giong to the lock-the-door -room.
But if you write down all you need to do, categorized by each color, scratch them off and before finished with all. Decide they’re too messy. Write them all again in different colors. Some items on repeat each week or month. Oh how wonderful to have an ongoing, never ending list of things to do… not.
❤WOW, that is the best analogy of how a person with adhd goes thru. The Best, thanks.❤
Best visual ever. One step, one thought at a time. Sometimes takes me a week to dwindle it down to that, but once I do, the relief is incredible.
This is the best description of me that I've ever heard
I think this is why weed "helped" me. it brought the 100 thoughts down to just the capacity for a few. I liked it because i could focus on one thing.. the problem though, is that if that was the WRONG thing, it was a total waste of my day.
The overwhelm is truly a baseline practically every minute of every day, and when the rare moment comes when I’m not experiencing it, it feels almost scary, like I’m not doing my “job” of being overwhelmed with trying to prioritize the giant, constantly changing list of tasks in my head as a single parent of three middle schoolers and also a student in an accounting master’s program. And fair warning to women who haven’t arrived at this stage yet: perimenopause has made my ADHD profoundly more challenging to cope with.
I recently read about the effectiveness of neurofeedback, and praying I can find a provider so that I can try it someday 🙏🤞
Just learning myself the perils of perimenopause exacerbating ADHD symptoms - my executive function is on vacation, please ask it to wait should it return before it gets back. And the overwhelm/shutdown has reached frightening levels. 🤯 Reverse puberty, cool cool. 😩
(Adhd me) Truth! That is the pen I use!!! So many colours so I don't get bored making a list... So many choices so much fun... zzzz makes me tired ❤ 🙂 Spot on • as always•😊
I have spent ages trying to find the perfect pen and paper to make a list of things to do. It would have been easier just to do things!!
Right??!! If only…
Ooooommmmgggggg you’ve summed up in 35 secs what I’ve been trying to explain to people around me in 50 years! 👏🏽🙏🏽
I was very late diagnosis ADHD, and I keep vacillating between whether I believe I have it or not. I don't have problems with some of the most common traits. But this one is dead nuts on. I am experiencing it at work as we speak.
There are varying degrees to how it affects an individual's functioning, so you could have it, but it just might not affect you as bad. I don't have every symptom either, but I was still diagnosed. I believe the criteria is in the DSM book. It should tell you how many symptoms (and for how long) out of how many possible is considered to be ADHD. You may know already, but there are different types, too. The only real way to know is to get tested. 😊
What kind of doctor do you go to for diagnosis?
@@westcoastbred7745 I could be giving incorrect info here, but in my knowledge and personal experience - in Australia, in Victoria, (not sure if it’s the same in all states),the diagnosis must be done by a Psychiatrist, who is preferably ADHD-friendly one who is up with the latest research. She/he is also the only med 😊professional allowed to prescribe medication. This was the case about 10years ago though so things might have changed. Just try and make sure to search out an ADHD-friendly practitioner if at all possible. Good luck!
You don't have it. They just want to sell more pills/more therapy.
@@SweetStuffOnMonarchLaneDSM is a freaking scam 😂 you believe that crap?
This is me every single day 😢
My house has become hoarders paradise, I'm exhausted all the time 😢😢😢
Woof, sorry Katie, me too. I haven't completely succeeded in fixing that yet, very much 25% of the way there, but have you tried using the To Do List function on Goblin Tools? That's what's helped me get what I've got done.
You can input any activity or task and it'll break it down into steps, as many or as little as you want. And you can add and subtract steps you need or don't. It can really help with planning and overwhelm.
And if that becomes too much, I combine it with using the stopwatch on my phone. If I set it off when I start a tidying task, I don't feel like I have to do an hour's worth or any specific amount because it's more gameified - like, how much will I manage, I can stop any time, but how did I do?? Then I take note of how much I've done in a post it app.
And the third layer I gave myself was coming up with accessible treats and needs I have to address but can't get it together to, like a trip around the charity shops on my high street or purchasing a new set of Loops (which I need but haven't got it together to order). I work out how many hours I want to apply to a reward (like an hour for charity shops/Loops but say 3 hours for a new game or 10 hours for an expensive but amazing thing I wouldn't usually justify for myself, but my house is a wreck and it's breaking my brain.) Then I keep track of my work hours with a number up top (overall hours in) and X's next to that for each hour. Then I can delete however many X's when I redeem an award. I still know how much work I've done and I can see how many X's I have in the bank for motivation treats.
Goblin Tools is a free website and a super cheap app. I really hope some of this helps because man, this situation is EXHAUSTING. And you need help out of it. But it does work, this hacking away method. My spare room has been a pile of junk for literal years but yesterday morning I got up and just started wading through it. After two hours listening to a podcast and moving stuff around, the room is in MUCH better order, I can stand in it without doing interpretive dance around all the crap and I can get started on turning it into the sensory library I've been wanting for years.
I'll probably stall out again a bunch of times but movement is happening, and I feel less awful, which I really needed. I hope the same comes to you, swiftly and easily!
You got this!! Start small and stay positive. You deserve happiness too ❤
Me too =(
And me:/
I tackled this a few years ago. Watched a lot of cleaning RUclips. Helped a ton. My house is clean and organized now. I cannot think in a messy space. Look up The Fly Lady Cleaning System with Fly Lady Kat. Konmari. British Cleaning Shows and my favorite... clean with me videos helped me stay motivated in the beginning. Also look up Swedish Death Cleaning. I took a little bit from everything to help me.
Be gentle with yourself. Start with one pile, one section. As you progress, you will succeed and feel proud of yourself. Create beautiful spaces and get rid of the junk you don't love or need.
How come I always feel like crying everything I watch any of your videos
Right?! ❤
For me (as a previously undiagnosed 60 yrs old female), it's because little light bulbs go off and I'm able to connect the dots of the reasons behind certain behaviors & it's not *MY FAULT*
The recognition that I'm not the only one struggling with this. The validation that I'm not crazy, I'm not broken, I'm not lazy, etc. The sadness of how difficult it has been living in a society that doesn't understand it and the loneliness of it all.
I laugh instead .finally somebody like me !
Thank you for highlighting this crucial distinction. Your efforts in clarifying the concept of ADHD have made it significantly easier for me to comprehend. Now I can share this with others who don’t understand.
Earlier this evening this topic was discussed and others said it’s just people who get distracted easily it’s not a big deal. Everyone can be distracted easily for example someone it reading and a squirrel passes by, you look at it then continue reading. That may be considered as having ADHD I’m not sure but it’s definitely more than that for me. Your explanation is much more accurate. Thanks for sharing this.
(Oh look there’s a squirrel ) 🤦🏻♀️
Boy, he hit the nail on the head!
Yes this is so accurate for me! A very well thought out analogy there. Well done! 👍
This is a fantastic explanation!
I've never felt more seen in my entire life
Omg so well explained. I never knew everybody else did not have a bizillion thoughts at once!😮 No wonder I stand in the kitchen wondering what to do as my list keeps getting longer and longer!
Oh my goodness, I totally relate to this and every video you have about adhd! You explain my mind like unraveling a knotted ball of yarn. I'm so glad to understand that this is why I am the way I am. Thank you for your video's!
Just watching him explain everything in a slow paced way was making me overwhelmed and my head hurt but good job explaining it🤗
Perfectly explain. It'
Feels so good to be understood by someone
YES!!!
THAT is my brain. Never thought I may have undiagnosed ADHD. I can't imagine having one thought at a time.
Exactly. Nailed it in a nutshell!☀️
“I need to drink water…I need to unpack my suitcase” Spot On! I still have mine packed from my trip I took over a month ago. We’re all alright though 😅 God Bless! 🙏❤️🇺🇸
Seriously, this is a brilliant explanation. Also, props to the Parker Jotter
And YOU, sir, have just explained 60% of my life
Maybe thats why i always like those pens when i was a kid. They were me 😅
OMG someone finally someone understands me!!!!!
Yeah most of the world operates like this it's called having a functioning mind. Just learn how to use your mind instead of letting it use you
The thoughts cycle over and over again too so 10 thoughts that are tasks cycled 10 times feels like 100 tasks and that’s overwhelming.
Explanation is spot on.
This pen analogy is absolutely spot on. I often become a whirlwind of so many different thoughts needing actions that I feel overwhelmed and unable to focus to achieve any of them
I just recently got away from a 22 year abusive relationship that literally took me 2 years to complete the escape plan and now after several months I have developed a trauma based attention deficit hyperactive disorder along with severe fatigue and tiredness. My doctor says I need to start a therapy called EMDR trauma therapy so I can start processing the trauma and begin the healing process. I’ve been assaulted in every way and even though he’s a felon now with multiple convictions he’s still free which stresses me out. My brain is that multi pen all day long. I have to write everything down so I don’t forget it all
God bless you. I hope you are safe. So scary.
Oh man😢 That's got to be horrible. I understand fear & being "locked" by that... not being able to get completely free from it all. I think there's probably some PTSD stuff there too. You've been living in a battle zone for so long. I'm happy you've gotten so far along. Many people wouldn't have the ability. You're an inspiration ❤
I've recently finished EMDR for trauma and I am super happy with the results. I hope you get to try it and have a similar experience. 😊
Sending love and healing xxx
Hands down, the BEST explanation of this experience ever.
😂😂😂And I also have one in both hands too.... Then on really big days, my toes also have pens😂🤦