tomarctus: [quote author=ericbear link=board=relationships;num=1077620863;start=0#13 date=02/28/04 at 17:25:28]Finding people interested in you can be tricky. I get the impression you are looking for someone with a big dick, but may be paying too much attention to cock size. If so, you may be loosing sight of other important factors that you need pay attention to understand why people are, or are not, attracted to you. Being middle-aged or positve doesn't really have anything to do with it. In fact, as I've started marching through my 40's, I'm finding I am actually attracting more younger guys (20's). On the other hand, I also started paying more attention to appearance, lost 40 lbs, etc. But I'm far from buffed and polished looking, but rather just look as if I care about myself. Most importantly, I've gained a lot more self-confidence. I would pay more attention to attracting guys for the right reasons, and ignore the cock size. You'll run into the hung ones sooner or later.[/quote]
Ericbear, Thanks for the reply. Dick size is not important to me unless I'm particularly horny to fulfill that fetish. My ex was smaller than I am. We were together for ten years and I would have stayed with him for the duration. Unfortunately, just before I had to close my business and go on disability he decided he wanted to be single again. I didn't see it coming. It hit me like a freight train.
When I posted my interest in the Personals section to meet other LPSG big dick members I had high hopes. The lack of response has disappointed me. I have also sent IM's to guys I thought might be interesting. I either received no response or a rejection. Now being rejected is no big deal but it can be discouraging if no one shows an interest. Perhaps the Personals section here is not the place for me to meet men with huge cocks. At least it hasn't worked for me yet.
I still enjoy many of the members here for cyber friendship. A couple of them might be interested in meeting me but we live too far away to make that happen. Only one person in Los Angeles, however, has expressed interest but, for some reason, we haven't been able to meet. He's hung decently but not huge. Eventually I hope we do meet. As for my Personals Los Angeles thread, I really don't know what to think.
As for running into hung ones sooner or later, I've only had sex with three really hung guys in 35 years of being sexually active in LA. I've been with many nicely hung guys and many with nice small dicks, too. But the really big ones have been elusive for me. It must be the luck of the draw.
Like you, I have noticed as I have aged, more interest from some younger guys. I really enjoy that. But I don't mind if the guy is 18 or 89 as long as we hit it off. I also like stocky and heavy men as well as buffed men.
I can be a fun guy, I look halfway decent and I have a decent body. I'm comfortable with my age and being poz. In general I don't focus on dick size at all and just enjoy the men I'm with. So your impression that I am too focused on dick size isn't really true. You said "finding people interested in you can be tricky", and that is certainly true!
Usually I never actually find out why another person doesn't find me interesting. Even if I ask him, he is reluctant to risk hurting my feelings. I still try to be the best person I can be. I'm confident most of the time but, like many, have spells when I feel vulnerable and undesireable.
Thanks for the input. I appreciate your concern and thoughts.
Now, how about a date?
